Cyber Stalking, Cyber Bullying, Cyber Harassment

Cyber stalking and cyber bullying are topics I wanted to discuss because it can happen to you.  A cyber stalker can be anyone.  You can become a victim at any time.  I have been cyber stalked and I wanted to share my experiences about it.

What is cyber stalking and cyber bullying?
Cyberstalking is a crime in which the attacker harasses a victim using electronic communication, such as e-mail or instant messaging (IM), or messages posted to a website, social media pages, or a discussion group. A cyberstalker relies upon the anonymity afforded by the Internet to allow them to stalk their victim without being detected. 

Often times online harassment for children are referrred to as cyber bullying and for adults as cyber stalking. Although the terms for both can be used interchangebly. It is also referred to as cyber harassment.  You probably have encountered one or more internet trolls who have nothing else better to do than to put other people down so they can suck the happiness out of others.  Cyber stalkers feed on terror, they want to create fear and shut you down.  

It can happen to you
There are plenty of people on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and other social media websites who pretend to be your friend, like your statuses, like your photos, pretend to get to know you, be in your good graces, and then turn on you in a heartbeat when you have an opinion that differs than theirs. Cyber stalkers may start off pretending to be friendly or they may be hostile from the get go.  Just because someone requests you as a friend on Facebook or follows you on Twitter, it doesn't mean they really want to be your friend. They could be snooping through your photos, reading your posts, see who you are connected to, gathering data to steal your identity or worse, to harm you mentally or physically.

Why do they stalk you?
Anything can trigger a person to hate you. It can be a photo, a status update, an announcement, a 'like', anything that the other person doesn't like or agree with. It could be an ex boyfriend/ex girlfriend, someone from your past, a former friend, a creep down the street, someone who just doesn't like you, anyone. Sometimes you aren't even aware that you did anything.  Your opinions may differ from theirs. They might be jealous of you. Whatever it is, a cyber stalker preys on you.  Unfortunately there are people in this world who are miserable and unhappy. They want to share that misery with anyone they can clench in their claws into and bring you down to their level. They feel powerful to say things to you online that they could never say in real life because in real life they are cowards.

What you can do if you are being cyber stalked or cyber harassed
If you know their identity, keep a record of all incidents (time, date, copies of the harassment, username).  If you are under the age of 18, tell your parent or an adult you trust about any harassments/threats.  If you do not feel safe to respond to your attacker, block them. You have the option to communicate that the harassment is unwanted and for the attacker to cease/stop any further communication. Keep all electronic and hard copies of any harassment.  If the attacker continues to communicate with you, do not respond back. Most social media channels allow you to "Report" a user.  Most also have a "Block" feature.  While it won't stop the cyber stalker from creating further fake anonymous accounts, you can take further measures to protect yourself.

  • Review your privacy settings
  • Review your current friendslist and remove any people you do not know
  • Do not accept random strangers
  • Do not share your location in your statuses such as checking into places or that you are out of town etc ...
  • Do not be friends with people who are friends of the cyber stalker
  • If you are being harassed through a blog or website that you manage and you have access to your traffic logs, you can obtain IP addresses of everyone who accesses your website/blog.  You can report the identified IP address of your cyber stalker to your internet service provider and their internet service provider.  You can also ban their IP from accessing your website/blog. You can also block/ban the cyber stalker from making comments on your blog.
  • You can report your cyber stalkers to your local police. 
  • If you are being harassed by email, you can block their email with your email provider.
  • If you are being harassed by text message or by phone, block the number by going into your mobile settings. One option, get a new number and only share with people you trust.
  • Report any incidents of identity theft 
  • If it becomes unmanagable on your social networks, it's okay to take a break.

My personal experiences with cyber harassment
In the past I've been harassed on various social networks such as Youtube, Facebook, and most recently I have been cyber stalked on Instagram.  I'm not sure what people have to gain by harassing me through my blog, harassing me through email, creating fake accounts to stalk me, stealing my photos, impersonating me on social networks, stealing my Youtube videos, or stalking my friends/family/coworkers.  Unfortunately there are some people in this world who just don't want to see you happy.

I really enjoy sharing content with my friends, family, and anyone who shares similar interests with me but in some cases, I have had to take a step back and focus on my safety and the safety of my friends.  I understand there is a difference between being criticized versus being stalked/harassed.  If you feel unsafe, that's harassment.

I hope some of these tips help you. Stay safe my friends.

 

December Giveaway

Giveaway Closed.

Hi everyone! It's nearing Christmas! I hope you are having a great festive season. I am giving away 5 cool gifts to 5 lucky people.  Enter today for your chance to win! 

Rules:

  • I will selectively pick 5 winners. 
  • Criteria for picking a winner will include your written submission to the questions.
  • Multiple entries does not increase your chance of winning, but you can submit more than one answer.
  • Giveaway ends December 25, 2015 at midnight.
  • I will email the winners on December 26.  If the winners do not respond within a 36 hour notification, a new winner will be selected.

Gift A:

  • 16 ounce unflavored gelatin
  • 1 package Pandan custard
  • 2 package vanilla sugar
  • 1 lotus flower wand
  • 4 powder food coloring (red, orange, yellow, green) 

Gift B:

  • 2 powder food coloring (orange, yellow)
  • 2 packages of baking powder single acting
  • one 16 ounce can of unflavored gelatin
  • 1 journal

 

Gift C, D, E:

  • 4 powder food coloring

My career as a web and mobile application developer

Life as a web developer is challenging and rewarding. I love my career, love solving problems and writing code.

When I was a little girl, personal computers were still "new" to the world. I grew up with the evolving technology. There were no cell phones, no internet, none of these these high tech devices.  However, technology and electronics always amazed me. It also kept me curious about our ever changing world.  When I graduated high school, I headed off to college thinking I would take the path of most girls to either go into education or nursing. I really didn't know what I wanted to do. I spent a lot of time in the computer lab and in the back of my mind I loved computers but I never knew if there would be a career path for me because it was a field of mostly men. My first inspiration to become a web developer was my sister Song Vang.  She was self taught and we worked on some early web projects back in the late 1990s.  I took my first leap of faith investing in education for myself and the rest was history.

What is a web developer?
A web developer is a programmer who specializes in, or is specifically engaged in, the development of World Wide Web applications, or distributed network applications that are run over HTTP from a web server to a web browser. [Definition from Wikipedia]

What is the difference between a web developer and a software engineer?
The title. Roles and responsibilties differ from organization to organization. In a nutshell, they all code. 

What type of work do you do?
I code web applications for websites, tablets, and mobile phones. I also code native iOS applications and Android applications.  I administrate a LAMP (Linux, Apache, MySql, PHP) stack. I've also made applications that integrate with social platforms such as Facebook and Twitter. 

What training is required to become a developer?
Most employers require an Associates Degree in Web Development or Bachelors of Science in Computer Sciences.  In this technology field, your education gets you the interview but your skills and experience gets you the job. Some of the best developers I've worked with never went to college.

What are some resources that I can learn to become a developer?
You are in luck! Google is your best friend.  I also recommend learning from w3schools.com and reading books. There are many paid websites that you can subscribe to learn programming languages. Also, you have me! You can contact me using my contact form if you have any questions. I may not always have an answer but I'm here to support you.

What soft skills are required for being a developer?
Passion. Drive. Persistence. Problem solving. Patience. Analytical. Detailed. Think outside the box.

What programming languages do you know?
My first programming language that I learned was Visual Basic, Java, SQL, and ASP. HTML, CSS and JavaScript are standard for web development. From there I learned PHP, Ruby, Objective-C, C#, Angular JS, Swift, and various frameworks/technologies. 

Describe a typical day on the job
First thing in the morning, we have our daily stand up meetings. In this meeting, we provide a quick overview of what we accomplished yesterday, what our goals are for the day, and if have any blockers.  Then I work on the different projects that I am assigned to, attend meetings, and code on my Macbook Pro.  A lot of the day is spent at a computer desk, typing, sitting down, and in meetings.

Who do we mostly work and collaborate with?
There are many team members including your manager, project manager, team lead, other developers, designers, business analysts, security architects, internal/external clients, director, business liasons, other people in the company, vendors, contractors, and most importantly customers! 

What is the most rewarding part of your job?
Creating apps! I love the challenge that I can create applications that people can interact with.

What do you like most about your job?
I like writing code, troubleshooting issues, debugging, and the fact that there's many ways to reach a solution.

What do you like least about your job?
I've worked with really great male developers and I've also worked with a handful of male developers with very high egos. Sometimes I get cut off before I finish speaking or making my points heard. At a former work place, I got talked down on.  Hey, no one should ever be treated like that.  Sometimes it's a boy's club and I'm not in it.

What is the most difficult challenge being a woman in a male dominated field?
Being a minority person of color and a woman. There's not that many of us so we are always the minority. Support in this area is improving and I'd like to change that to encourage more women and people of color to enter this field. It is a great field! 

What advice would you give someone entering school for programming?
You can start at community college or a technical college. They give you hands on training that most universities don't. Universities teach you theory but most classes are taught in a lecture and you don't get the hands on training like you would in a smaller classroom.  I've done both - community college and university.  Most important fact is find a strong support structure. Align yourself with other students and people who can help you.  Let go of the distractors and focus. If you live in Madison, visit Madison College! It is a great college and the instructors are phenominal. 

Any tips for being successful in this industry?
Find a mentor. I believe strongly in a mentor/peer relationship because it will help guide you in the direction you are seeking.  To stay competitive in this industry you must always be flexible and adapt to new technology. Learning is a continual process.  Over the course of the last 15 years of my career, I continue to learn new programming languages and tools to make me a more efficient developer.

If you would like to ask me any question to make this blog entry more complete, please comment below! 

 

Mangonada Recipe

Hi everyone! It's been a while since I last did a food tutorial. Today I will be sharing my recipe how to make a mangonada.

Ingredients:

  • 1 to 2 cups of frozen mangos
  • 1 cup water (adjust if needed)
  • 4 or 5 ice cubes
  • 1 or 2 tsp Mio Liquid Water Enhancer Lemonade flavor
  • 1 tsp Chamoy
  • sprinkle of Tajin
  • tamarind candy stick
     
  1. In a blender, add frozen mangos, water, and ice. Blend for a few seconds.
  2. In a cup, add chamoy. Then sprinkle some tajin. Then add the blended mango. Add as many layers as you like.

Tips:  If you want a thick texture, add more ice.  If you want is more slushy, use less ice or increase water.

 

Where can I find these ingredients?

 

March Giveaway

Enter the form below for your chance to win these gifts!

Contest is closed.

Congratulations to Samantha Vang of Oroville, CA for winning the main giveaway!
Congratulations to Nancy Pierce from New Hampire who won the lotus flower wand.

Congratulations to Koobmong Kong from MN who won the powder food coloring.

Reflections of 2014


[Photo I took of Mt. Everest at Animal Kingdom in Orlando, FL]

This past year has been an extraordinary year of my life.  I've never had challenges as quite as this before.  I find that each year of my life gets more and more complex.  I've been running on empty for the past year. I just needed to take a break and press pause.

These are the reflections of my 2014 I wanted to share with you.  I hope the lessons I learned will help you in some small way.

  1. No matter how crazy life gets, hold onto your anchor.  In 2014, my anchor was Song and Nancy.  I would not have made it through the year without these two special ladies.  They were with me every step, every foot forward on this journey. Whenever I felt like I was floating away, they kept me strong.
  2. Every effort counts, no matter how small.  I started 2014 with a bang ... exercising at the YMCA every day from January to end of February and then I quit going. Everyday during that time, after work my family and I went to the White Bear YMCA, Woodbury YMCA, or Coon Rapids YMCA.  Oh how I miss going there so much now.  It was fun exercising as a whole family.
  3. Saying goodbye to my material possessions. My house finally sold in April since I moved to MN. As much as I was happy to get it sold, I was also sad to say goodbye to my home. I'm now mortgage free! I still miss my kitchen and my house, sometimes I still drive by it.  Most of my wardrobe I can pack up into two bags.
  4. Eat more fish.  Every time I ate some fresh sashimi and fish, I felt so good. Too bad I didn't get to go fishing much at all in 2014.  I will make a better effort to go more in 2015!
  5. Don't work yourself to exhaustion.  I am guilty of that. I worked myself to the point of exhaustion for many months.  I slept for 1-3 hours a day, 7 days a week. Some days when I rested my head, I thought that I would not wake up.  Never again will I ever put myself through so much agony.  That kind of suffering is not natural.
  6. Take a break. I went to Florida with my Vang family in August. It was our first vacation as a whole family (mom, dad, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, hubby, son) since 20 years ago.  We went to Disneyworld! Magic Kingdom, Epcot, Animal Kingdom, Universal Studios, and Siesta Key Beach. In November, my husband and I went on an adventure driving down south. We visited Georgia and North Carolina.  I needed to see the world ... We didn't have a plan, just drove with the help of Google Maps.
  7. Add more color to your life.  I went through a MAC lipstick phase. Part of it was psychological, I knew I had to change. I needed to break free from the comforts of what I was accustomed to. I made bold choices in 2014.
  8. Hug more people. I didn't get to socialize much in 2014. I really missed my friends. Thanks so much to the friends who made it a special date to see me in 2014.  Sky & Donnie, Tasha & Matt, Aimee, Sarah, Valerie, Michele, Kayla, Ytevia, Macy, Nicki, and Molly.  You may not know this but in 2014 is the one year that I hardly socialized with anyone at all. Seeing your lovely faces, made me so happy. *tears*
  9. Bad things happen for a reason.  In 2014, I had no work life balance. The signs were there.  I suffered greatly because I am the type of person that braves through challenges.  Sometimes it takes us falling into darkness to realize we need to reshift, reclaim, and rebuild ourselves.
  10. It's okay to cry.  Yup, 2014 was a year I cried a lot. Sometimes we go through life never noticing other people's tears behind their smiles.  Everyone struggles in their own way.  Everyday we are trying to champion our daily life battles. Overall, I've been really tested in 2014 ... emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I was very lonely in 2014.

What do I have planned for 2015? 

  • Love.  Give more love to others.
  • Make more food tutorials
  • Write more technology blogs
  • Spend more time with family and friends

The House On the Rock

These are some pictures I took on my visit to the House on the Rock in Spring Green, WI back in October.  It's a very interesting place to visit.  There are 3 buildings that have various collections.  This will most likely take 4-5 hours to tour all 3 buildings.  It's fascinating. Wear comfortable shoes because you will be walking a lot.

The house was built on top of Deer Shelter Rock. 

Cost: $28.50 for adults

More details on their website:  

 

Trip down south

I went on a road trip to Georgia in November. It was a 12 hour drive from Wisconsin. My hubby and I drove through Illinois, Kentucky, Tennessee, and Georgia.  On our way back, we stopped in North Carolina for a few days and drove back home through NC, TN, KY, OH, IN, IL, and WI.  So many thanks for my hubby's cousin Myndi and her hubby Vam Tsav for hosting us while we were in Georgia! 


My friend Nicki took me to this awesome vietnamese bakery called VN Tofu in Norcross, GA.  It has the most selection of vietnamese bakery goods I have ever seen in my entire life! 


This is a picture of my hubby's cousin Myndi, my friend Nicki and I. It was taken at the Hindi temple in the Atlanta suburbs.  This place is gorgeous! 


Hindi temple. Beautiful and majestic place. 


My friend Nicki and I at an indian buffet.  Nicki is a sweetheart!  We met on Twitter and became friends.  This was the first time I had met her in person.  It's so wonderful knowing that we can talk as if we'd known each other our entire lives.  She's super cool and I enjoyed hanging out with her!  This place had the best pineapple juice/drink from a fountain I have ever tasted in my life. It was so refreshing and good that I kept going back for more.


Me, Myndi, and Nicki at the indian buffet.  I was hungry I forgot to take a picture of my plate.  


My good friend Molly and I in Winder, GA. We've known each other over 20 years.  I surprised her on her birthday! This was the first time in nearly 20 years since we last saw each other in Fresno. She's a sweetheart and a caring friend. 


Some yummy food my hubby and I made at Myndi and her hubby's house in Winder, GA.  Hubby made the fish dish. I made the blue crab. Myndi made the pork and greens.


VN Tofu bakery goods


VN Tofu bakery goods

VN Tofu bakery goods


This is Assi, a korean supermarket as large as Walmart.

Assi korean grocery store - asian pears!


Assi korean grocery store


Assi korean grocery store - snow crabs


Farmers Market - blue crabs


Farmers Market - peeled garlic, what a convenience! 

Farmers Market veggie stands


Some chinese grocery store, I forgot the name.

Chinese grocery store - ox tails, so beautiful


Picture of the Smoky Mountains.


Smoky Mountains


Picture of me in the Smoky Mountains.


Picture of me at the Biltmore Mansion gardens in Ashville, NC.


Picture of me at the Biltmore Mansion Winery in Ashville, NC.


Biltmore Mansion in Ashville, NC.  You should see it at least once in your life.  It's about a $50 fee per person and you get access to the mansion, winery (free wine tasting), gardens, and trails.  If you do plan to go, I suggest going early so that you can have enough time to view everything.  I went on a self guided tour but you can also pay for a guided tour which gives you access to more rooms in the mansion.  I went at my own pace and it took about 1.5 hours to walk through the entire house.  The views of the mountain are breathtaking. Gorgeous views...  You can take pictures everywhere except inside the mansion.  There's lockers nearby so you can place your items before you enter the mansion. Make sure to bring quarters for the lockers! 

 

From my Instagram photos of the Biltmore Estate in Ashville, NC:

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